IS THIS HOLIDAY SEASON GOING TO DEFICIENT OF CHEER BECAUSE A FAMILY MEMBER IS ILL OR DISABLED?
WE HAVE A WAY TO CHANGE THAT ... MAYBE IMPROVE THE MOOD, LIGHTEN THINGS UP A BIT, AND BLESS ONE ANOTHER WITH MORE KINDNESS.
the kindness DOC
Hello, and welcome. I'm Dr. Chris Hageseth, The Kindness Doc. I created The Couples Kindness Training to provide a way for couples to refresh, restore, and reinvigorate their relationship; one that has lasted a significant length of time or one that's just getting started..
Your relationship may be relatively new, or it may be decades old. It may be personal or it may be professional. But what's important, is that you are open to understanding one another more deeply.You do this to make a good relationship even better. Unlike therapy which starts by asking what the problem is, Couples Kindness Coaching requires only a simple openness and a willingness to understand each other in a new and different way. This is accomplished by following a structured dialogue based on the results of apersonality test called the Enneagram. You both will need to take the test and then follow our instructional video to learn how to proceed. Almost everyone who goes through the program is astounded at what they learn about themselves and each other.
I have included enough basic information here on my website that you can complete the dialogue without necessarily needing input from someone experienced in the Enneagram. But is case you would like to understand yourselves more deeply, please contact me.
A retired psychiatrist, I have had Parkinson's disease for eighteen years and I'm happy to report that I'm not yet disabled; not yet in need of a caregiver. From 2012 until 2020, I directed our community-based support group for Persons with Parkinson's Disease (PWPs). I witnessed first hand as some PWPs required more and more assistance from a family member. I observed how their role evolved from spouse to caregiver.
During my varied, forty-year medical career, I have worn a wide variety of medical hats. After finishing medical school I volunteered to become a Marine Corps Flight Surgeon (Vietnam). Upon leaving the military, I went on to be a general practitioner (four years), an emergency room physician (four years), and finally as board-certified psychiatrist for twenty-five years. Over the decades, I have also made several shorter medical trips to Third-World countries including Honduras, Guatemala, and Uganda.
While my life and career have been fulfilling and meaningful, I still feel an inner drive to continue - like I'm not through with my life's work yet. That's why I'm here. I want to improve the lives of everyday people who are in relationships that needs a tune-up.
Photos: Resting during a hike with Gyp, our certified therapy dog My wife and I at 12,000 feet in Rocky Mountain National Park
The Kindness Dialogue uses a conceptual model of how the human mind works called THE ENNEAGRAM. It is a system for understanding one’s personality by describing it in terms of nine types, each with their own motivations, fears, and internal dynamics. We will use it as a language, a typology, in order for the Kindness Dialogue to provide a new and deeper understanding of yourself and the people in your life who are most important to you.
People who go to a therapist are first asked what problem(s) brought them in. The Kindness Dialogue does not start with one's problems; rather they are offered a new system of thought that will enable them to see each other in a new way; or as we like to say, through new eyes.
Fortunately, there is a place on the Internet, The Enneagram Institute, that will provide you with detailed information about the Enneagram and provide a test to discover your Type. The test results will provide a starting point for identifying your type, because sometimes your type may not be that obvious despite taking the test. The Enneagram Institute offers several additional ways to get clearer about your type. Bear in mind that the results of a single test are not etched in stone. Over a few years and with the passage significant life events, many people experience some changes in the top three personality types.
A thoughtfully scripted conversation between two people who are very important in each other's lives. It is is based on the results of the Enneagram Personality test. The purpose of Couples Kindness Coaching is to develop a deeper understanding of each other and a commitment to share more intentional acts of kindness.
The information included here may look daunting at first, but just take it one step at a time. If you are unsure on how to proceed, get in touch with Dr. Chris.