The Kindness Dialogue uses a conceptual model of how the human mind works called THE ENNEAGRAM. It is a system for understanding one’s personality by describing it in terms of nine types, each with their own motivations, fears, and internal dynamics. We will use it as a language, a typology, in order for the Kindness Dialogue to provide a new and deeper understanding of yourself and the  people in your life who are most important to you.

People who go to a therapist are first asked what problem(s) brought them in. The Kindness Dialogue does not start with one's problems; rather they are offered a new system of thought that will enable them to see each other in a new way; or as we like to say, through new eyes.

Fortunately, there is a place on the Internet, The Enneagram Institute, that will provide you with detailed information about the Enneagram and provide a test to discover your Type. The test results will provide a starting point for identifying your type, because sometimes your type may not be that obvious despite taking the test. The Enneagram Institute offers several additional ways to get clearer about your type. Bear in mind that the results of a single test are not etched in stone. Over a few years and with the passage significant life events, many people experience some changes in the top three personality types.